Living in black-and-white despite a technicolor world

I don’t know about you, but people who feel they can judge others really gets under my skin.  Recently, a friend of mine had something removed from her dry erase board on her dorm room door.  The object was an Allies club sticker.  Someone felt the need to remove it for one reason or another.  I’m sorry, but when were we as humans given the right to judge anyone else?  I’m me ,and you’re you. 

Last time I checked, that right was not one obtained by any human being, but rather for any “higher power” one chooses to believe in.

I was raised by one important saying: “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”  What if I walked past your dorm room door and you have a picture of a big, juicy burger on your door and I found it offensive because maybe I was a vegetarian; would you appreciate me writing ‘cow killer’ on your picture with a red sharpie?

If you had a sign you made to support a Clarion sports team, and I scribbled over it because maybe I’m more into the intellectual side of college? Oh, or maybe you had a bikini babe posted and I was deeply religious and felt that women should remain covered up, so I decided to draw clothes over her bikini?  Finally, what if you had a real fur shrug that you left hanging on your door knob, and I decided to dump red paint all over it and write “P.E.T.A.” in big letters on your whiteboard?  Would any of these examples be OK with you?  Hmmmm… why not? 

According to the Pennsylvania Crime Codes, criminal property destruction is charged as criminal mischief.  Common examples of this charge are vandalism or damage resulting from other personal or domestic disputes, revenge, road rage or other reckless behavior that damages another person’s physical property.

I know that it was just a sticker, but it meant something to the person whoposted it. 

Typically, if I don’t agree with another person’s thoughts or opinions, I keep my mouth shut.  Another good thing I was taught as a child was “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”  If I see something I don’t like, I just keep walking.  Super easy, right?  Maybe we should all try it once in a while. 

According to, the word “offensive” is defined as “causing resentful displeasure; highly irritating, angering, or annoying.”  Now, to me, stickers no matter what they say are too minute to anger me; they are inanimate objects. 

Consulting again, this time for the word “opinion,” it is defined as “a personal view, attitude, or appraisal.”

I like that word “personal,” everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but a line is crossed when that opinion is pushed onto someone else.  Do I expect anyone to agree with my opinions that I write in my column each week?  Heck no.  Would it offend me or cause me to rip stickers off all of your doors? Nope.  There are more important things going on in this world for me to consider putting my energy into. 

Just because society has taken a turn for the worst (as a whole), doesn’t mean we have to follow it or stoop to that level.  Let’s take common sense back and work toward empathy and toleration over ignorance and alienation. 

If you don’t care enough to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, then you don’t care (enough to take any action – positive or negative).  Walk on by, please.  If you want to “stand up’” for something, make it worth it.  Gender inequality, animal rights, abuse, etc… instead of dishing out judgment on those you don’t agree with. 

As Bob Dylan once said, “The times they are a-changin.”

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